Know what you want and what is reasonable to expect
If you flirt just to be friendly, you are opening yourself to different opportunities. You may well end up with a new lover but if that doesn't work out you could meet someone who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce you to.
Keep your options open.
Make sure your hair is clean and your body and breath smell good.
You don't have to douse yourself in after-shave, just take care of personal hygiene at the basic level.
Great States are catching
People love being around charismatic people because they seem to spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state for flirting and go for it.
When you buy a woman a drink, that is all you are buying
Don't expect her to fall at your feet.
Sometimes it is nice just to send someone a drink, watch when they receive it and smile, then look away look back again later to show your interest.
Don't try to get a woman drunk isn't it preferable to have someone like you genuinely not because their senses are obliterated by alcohol.
Don't do the rounds of a group of women
No woman wants to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after another in the same group. You look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate any port in a storm Even if you are, don't show it.
Concentrate on the conversation, not on getting a date.
Most women want to know what kind of person they are going out with. Make an effort to get to know her before diving in for a date
Give GENUINE compliments
There's nothing worse than someone giving out a load of overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them, notice that and compliment them genuinely.
Keep your hands to yourself and respect their space
There are some people I call space invaders. Even when engaging in a casual chat they just seem to get too close. Some women have no objection to 'touchy feely' encounters, others are horrified by it.
Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you know more.
Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing the reactions then moving back a little to remove the threat
If you ask for a phone number, be sure you want to use it
Flirting and meeting people is NOT about trophy hunting it is about making new connections and having fun.
If you don't intend to use the number, don't ask. There's nothing worse than giving out a phone number and not having someone call. If you asked for it, use it .
And finally:
Be yourself. It's no point in assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren't YET sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there.
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